The Venus in 8th house synastry is challenging at the best of times.
Venus in the 8th house is guaranteed to be a thrill, for both people involved. However, it isn’t going to be a smooth and easy ride, where everything is predictable and out in the open.
Throughout this relationship – which is unlikely to develop into a stable and secure long-term relationship, by the way – there are going to shocks and surprises. Some of them may be delightful and welcome, while others may be unpleasant, to say the least.
A Venus in the 8th house synastry overlay indicates, inevitably, a powerful but challenging connection. Both partners are going to be forced to grow and transform. Ultimately, the two may fall apart and go their separate ways, but not before they have explored some truly new and unexpected territory together.
A relationship characterised by a Venus in the 8th house synastry overlay is unlikely to be of the most conventional variety. This is is a connection of exploration, discovery, revelation, and the more or less deliberate breaking down of well-established boundaries.
This is at once exciting, jarring and eye-opening. If exciting, jarring and eye-opening is what you want in a relationship, then you could do a whole lot worse than a Venus in eight house pairing.
Contemplating a relationship where one person’s Venus is in the other person’s 8th house is no different than considering an invitation to adventure. Should you take the leap into this heady and strange experience, or should you hold your horses until a more safe and predictable romantic prospect comes along?
In short, is it wise to pursue a romantic connection with a Venus in 8th house synastry aspect? Keep reading and you just might find out.
What is a Venus in 8th house synastry?
Synastry is a sub-branch within astrology focused on observing the compatibility of two people by overlaying their two natal charts with each other to create a synastry chart.
By looking at which houses the different planets are in, or are aspected to, a professional astrologer is able to deduct a whole lot about the nature and trajectory of the romantic connection. Some planets are likely to be well aspected in the synastry chart, while others may be causing tension, friction and opposition between the two partners.
A synastry chart is a diagnostic tool, if you will. It is able to reveal a lot about you and your partner’s fundamental compatibility and about the challenges you are likely to face in your relationship.
However, it is important to keep in mind that synastry is not a judgement on your relationship. The stars don’t tell you what to do, they merely give you a few pointers that might help you navigate your love life with greater success and more joy. Always trust your own heart and intuition above all.
What does Venus mean in astrology?
Venus and its astrological aspects are important to look for in the synastry chart. Why? Because Venus is the planet of love, romance, lust and adoration. Venus is also associated with art, beauty, luxury and material possessions.
The planet Venus takes its name from the Roman goddess of love, lust, beauty and fertility. Venus is the Roman counterpart to the Greek goddess, Aphrodite, and she is the female counterpart of the Roman god of war and conquest, Mars, who is also the namesake of one of the big eight planets in astrology.
Venus is linked with the star signs Aries and Taurus, the former being a fire sign and the latter an earth sign – but both manifest the energies of Venus in different ways.
It should be obvious by now that Venus is an extremely important planet, in astrology overall, and in synastry specifically. Whenever your Venus is aspected to another planet – and this is particularly true in synastry – it indicates an incredibly strong sense of attraction and desire.
What is the 8th house in astrology?
The eight house in astrology is ruled by the planet Pluto and by the star sign Scorpio.
Scorpio, and its ruling planet Pluto, is all about death and transformation. These are seriously intense, exciting and challenging forces.
The eight astrological house is the house of transformation, of the unknown and the unexpected. Of the death and the old and the birth of the new.
When it comes to the 8th house, the only thing you can be sure of is the unexpected, so prepare for shocks and surprises. Exploring the eight house is akin to getting on an amusement park ghost train; heading in you are prepared to be jumping in your seat, but it is impossible to anticipate what is going to cause it.
The Venus person in the relationship
The Venus person in the relationship is drawn to the 8th house person because of their inherent mystery and desire to push boundaries.
If your Venus is in your partner’s or love interest’s eight house, you are going to be uncovering some of their deepest, darkest secrets and desires. This is going to be an exciting and transformative experience for both of you – but depending on what you find or what self-revelations you trigger in your partner, it could also be shocking and chaotic.
The Venus person feels called to surrender to the unknown, and to go with the flow of this connection. That’s not to say that the Venus person doesn’t feel a sense of dread and apprehension going in – can the romantic partner be trusted? Is the excitement really your intuition trying to tell you that you are taking too great a chance?
The 8th house person in the relationship
If your partner’s Venus is in your eight house, their love is going to transform you by pushing your boundaries – subtly or insistently – and forcing you to change and evolve.
One of the most beautiful gifts – and greatest challenges – this relationship has in store for you is that it will uncover and stirs up some of your hidden desires and secrets. In this relationship, you are going to learn and discover a lot about yourself, as well as about the nature of love itself.
Hallmarks of the Venus in 8th house synastry pairing
Of course, every relationship characterised by a Venus in 8th house synastry overlay is different, but there are also similarities. They are listed here.
The romantic attraction between the two partners in a Venus in 8th house synastry relationship is strong and immediate.
Sexually, these two are imminently compatible. Because the 8th house aspect indicates mystery and the unknown, the Venus in 8th house pairing are likely to experiment and explore their sexual desires and barriers together. This may lead one or both partners to discover new and profound things about themselves, and each other.
The strong physical attraction also draws them together in a way that strengthens the relationship.
Not least thanks to there physical closeness and intimacy, emotional intimacy soon develops between partners in Venus in the 8th house relationships.
As each partner slowly but surely begins to open up, the relationship grows and flourishes proportionally. In a Venus in the 8th house synastry connection, the partners are likely to open up to each other and dare to be vulnerable in ways they would not have expected.
Despite their strong physical bond and emotional closeness, there is always secrecy in relationships where the Venus is in the eight house.
One partner may have had or may currently be having an affair, or one or both partners may have other kinds of dark secrets hidden in the closets of their pasts. At least some of these secrets are going to be spilled or discovered during the course of the relationship.
One partner, craving a deepening of their shared emotional intimacy, may sense resistance and reluctance from the other partner. This can cause a whole lot of frustration and that most corrosive substance for the longevity of relationships, mistrust.
Whether one partner is resisting opening all the way up to the other because they genuinely have something to hide, or whether they are just not very good at talking about their past or their emotions can be a challenging and frustrating piece of guesswork.
Jealousy and possessiveness can all too easily develop in relationships marked by a Venus is in the eight house synastry aspect.
This may be a direct results of secrecy, of things being withheld or accidentally discovered. Suspicion – whether deserved or not – tends to develop in one or both romantic partners.
They easily become susceptible to jealously watching each other, fearful that they cannot really trust the other’s motives and intentions.
Unless the two partners are able to address and deal with the corrosive feelings of possessiveness, jealousy and lack of trust, these are likely to become the eventual undoing of the relationship.
Pros of the Venus in 8th house synastry
On the positive side, this is karmic, transformative relationship. Going int this relationship would act as a catalyst for personal growth and discovery – an opportunity that is very hard, and often unwise, to turn down.
Another pro is that that the chemistry is palpable and undeniable. Together, this pair are likely to experience great pleasure and make positive sexual discoveries as they explore new territory together and reveal some of their most deeply held desires to each other.
A sense of catharsis attends this relationship. Difficult and even painful as the connection may sometimes be, it is also a thrill, a catalyst and a crash-course in love and desire.
Cons of the Venus in 8th house synastry
The Venus in eight house synastry pairing is one of those where the cons just might outweigh the pros. Of course, this is generally speaking, as each relationship is different, and the people in it have free will and agency to make their own decisions and forge the ultimate fate of their romantic liaison.
Having said that, there are a few obvious cons associated with this relationship, and they are worth summarising.
An obvious downside to the Venus in eight house synastry pairing is the sense of secrecy and the ultimate refusal or both partners to open up completely to the other. Honesty and truth has to be one of the pillars if a healthy long-term relationship is to develop. There is no way around it.
Living with secrets, or merely with uncertainty and suspicion about your partner’s whereabouts, motives or past, can become very draining very quickly. While living with uncertainty about the future of your relationship might be fine if you are not fully committed or if the relationship is open, it is no foundation on which something lasting can be built.
One thing is certain, and it is that any relationship characterised by a Venus in eight house synastry aspect is going to pose a challenge. An exciting challenge, but a challenge nonetheless.
Depending on where you are at in your own life and what your priorities are, you may decide to accept the challenge and go on the adventure – for an adventure it is surely going to be.
If you are in a place in life where you are done playing around and are looking for a stable, solid and perhaps to some extend predictable relationship, this may not be for you. At the very least, this relationship is going to require serious effort and patience if it is going to work in the long run and provide you with the stability and level of commitment you require.
Just because a prospective relationship is guaranteed to pose some challenges does not necessarily mean that you have to write it off instead of giving it a chance. But then again, you may not want to give an uncertain relationship any chances – if you require a degree of certainty before going in, you are perfectly within your right to do so.
All in all, it is up to you. There is no right or wrong, only experiences with may or may not align well with your own ultimate goals and plans. Trust your intuition – ultimately, you have no higher authority to turn to when it comes to matters of the heart.