You may have heard of the divine feminine energy but have you ever heard of dark divine feminine energy?
This has recently been a trend in TikTok and a lot of women are claiming that they feel more powerful and in control, once they started leaning into their dark feminine energy. Don’t be confused – this has nothing to do with witchcraft.
We live in a world of duality – everything has a light side and a dark side. And as the name goes, the dark feminine energy is the dark side. In psychology, this dark side is called the shadow.
In today’s society, there is a general idea of what a feminine woman should be like – innocent, pure, caring, gentle, soft, etc. You picture out princesses, good housewives, and loving mothers. These are all visions of the feminine energy that you were raised to aim for.
But there is so much more to being a feminine woman than the light side. It just so happens that the lighter side is more welcome. And focusing on the light side of our feminine energy limits our thoughts, feelings, and actions. To have some balance, the good must come with the bad.
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But this does not mean that dark femininity is a bad thing. It is common to associate light and dark with good and bad, respectively. But this is not always the case. Not all dark is bad – it only becomes something bad if you are reckless with it.
Think about it – everybody has a light and dark side. But just because you have a dark side does not mean you are a bad person, right? You need the good and the bad for balance. The light and dark aspects of feminine energy must work together for a woman to access her true power.
This may all sound bizarre at first but there is more to your dark femininity than what you think. And it is not that bad too. In fact, it is a dark thing that you must embrace. In this article, we will discuss the dark feminine energy and why you should use it.
What is dark feminine energy?
The dark feminine is one-half of the divine feminine energy. It is not a negative aspect – but it is a dark, shadow, fiery, and transformational aspect of womanhood. It is the strong side of you that gives you confidence and makes you secure about yourself.
We have a perfect example for you. In myth and religion, the dark feminine energy is expressed by figures like Lilith, Lakshmi, Isis, Oya, Kali, and Innana. Modern female figures that have expressed their dark feminine energy in public include Rihanna, Angelina Jolie, and Beyonce.
If you have a healthy relationship with your dark energy, you can access a lot of creative energy and confidence. This allows you to become the best version of yourself and helps you improve your skills and talent.
If you are in tune with your dark feminine self, you become comfortable with your body and you become confident in expressing yourself sexually. In fact, you can have enough sexual energy to overtake a man’s sexuality and be in charge. With this, you can also be wildly sensual and seductive if you are able to access your dark energy.
The dark feminine energy can also give you healing by giving you courage and strength to communicate clearly and create boundaries. Because of this, you transform from a helpless victim who often holds back because of society’s limitations and judgments to a confident woman who is not afraid to become herself and speak her truth.
Light and dark aspects of feminine energy
Here is a list of attributes under light and dark feminine energy that women experience.
Light feminine traits
Dark feminine traits
Why dark feminine energy is important
Although it is safe to say that divine feminine energy is more meaningful, dark energy should be equally important. Both must work together because you cannot have yin without yang, creation without destruction, birth without death, and a beginning without an end.
Women grew up to think that certain things should be repressed because they are not “ladylike” and because of that, the dark feminine energy has been expressed because the light feminine energy was more welcomed.
As a result, a lot of women grow up burying their fierceness, rage, and desires. Repressed emotions lies beneath a façade because they were “unladylike” and society prefers a certain standard to how women should behave.
Think about it – a woman is treated differently when she speaks her mind, when she chooses to be independent, when she chooses not to have kids, when she prioritizes her own pleasures, or when they do things their way.
Patriarchal structures condemn behaviors like these because these women can not be controlled and they were perceived as a threat. Men end up marrying women who are prim and proper – women who suppress their dark feminine energy. All because they believe they are “safer” options compared to the women who are in touch with their shadow side.
Ironically, a lot of men also secretly lust after women who are in touch with their dark energy and end up having affairs with them. They end up intrigued by the dark goddess who is so different from the submissive wife they married. In the end they desire intimate relationships with the dark goddess.
The dark feminine energy is the key to helping you let go of anything that no longer serves you, strengthening your boundaries, feeling confident with your body and your sexual energy, accessing your creativity, communicating your thoughts and arguments without guilt or shame, and stopping being the victim.
When you get to access your dark feminine energy, you activate your true power and reconnect with your inner strength. There will be no more room for self-doubt. You know your true nature and you fully embrace it. And you will feel more empowered by the fact that you are free to be your true self.
Reclaiming your dark feminine energy
To reclaim this side of your feminine energy, you must learn to let go of any limiting beliefs or propaganda that were enforced upon you.
Here is a list of some common ways that you can tap into your dark feminine energy.
Practicing shadow work is all about getting in touch with your shadow self, which is the dark and disowned parts of your personality. You have to do away with all the negative and limiting belief systems that have been enforced upon you growing up.
You can practice shadow work by examining your emotions, assumptions, and thoughts then express or engage in them through journaling, affirmations, or even exercises.
This practice is known to help develop your mind, body, and spirit and it takes a lot of self-discipline and patience.
When meditating for dark divine energy, you do not have to clear your mind. In fact, to be in tune with your shadow self, you have to let your feelings and thoughts flow freely while staying still. This will help you develop an awareness of your shadow and true thoughts.
Doing intentional journaling is one way to help you rationalize your thoughts and emotions and allow them to be in your conscious awareness. It helps to create journal prompts and list down questions that you can reflect on while you are doing meditation.
By placing these thoughts and questions into writing, you are able to make space for them so that you can act on them or move on from them.
Open your heart
Accessing your dark feminine energy is to understand that you must let go of certain things. To do so, you must learn to be vulnerable and to forgive – which takes a lot of courage.
Opening your heart is not easy but you have to understand that this is more about your peace of mind and not about the person or people that have wronged you. Forgiveness gives you peace and this leaves space for you to finally concentrate on your potential.
Chakras are the body’s energy centers and it is believed that they play an important role when it comes to physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual healing. Each chakra is responsible for different parts of your life force.
When the chakras are imbalanced and overactive, they prevent you from accessing your dark feminine energy. Keeping your chakras stable will help you become more in tune with your inner power and that includes your dark feminine energy.
Have you ever considered that you can be your own worst enemy sometimes? Your insecurities and fears get in the way of your growth. You have to accept yourself in full – your flaws, negative emotions, and your past.
This is the ideal mindset and an important part of making your dark feminine energy work. If you have genuine self-love, you allow yourself to be free from the limiting constraints that you have enforced on yourself.
To start reclaiming your dark feminine energy, you must learn to embrace change – even the bad ones. Some people have trouble in this department because to them, change means failure – change happens because they made a mistake.
As a result, a lot of people prefer to stay in their comfort zones because they only feel safe with the familiar. But this does not serve your highest self and definitely does not bring out your true potential.
Change is a natural and constant process in life. It is something that you should welcome because it is also a requirement for you to grow. You have to realize that some changes are necessary and you have to embrace them.
Strengthen female relationships
Your bond and connection to the women in your life will affect your ability to channel your feminine energy – whether it may be the dark or light one. Take time to analyze your relationships with the women in your family, social circle, and professional life.
If you find that there are strained relationships and unhealed issues there, try your best to make things work between the two of you. Grant yourself grace and forgiveness. Seek amends and you will find that it will be easier for you to access your feminity.
You may be wondering what alchemy has to do with your dark feminine energy. After all, the original alchemy is all about transforming base metals into more valuable metals like turning lead into gold.
The alchemy being referred to here is a modern approach popularized by Paulo Coelho in his book, The Alchemist. He describes alchemy as the ability to manifest a personal evolution and explains how in a seven-step transformation process. The seven steps are calcination, dissolution, separation, conjunction, fermentation, distillation, and coagulation.
Boost your emotional intelligence
Accessing your shadow feminine self will require some maintenance. And the best way to maintain it is to boost your emotional intelligence.
You can enhance your emotional intelligence by learning better ways to listen, communicate, and handle conflict.
The toxic side of dark feminine energy
The key to being able to make the best out of your dark feminine energy is balance. It should never take over your light feminine energy. You should not let your dark divine feminine energy control you.
When this happens, you will have difficulty accessing the light feminine energy aspects such as empathy or compassion. You can be dangerous not only to others but also to yourself. Untamed dark divine energy can make you reckless and turn you into a toxic person.
There have been a lot of cases where females have nourished their dark feminine aspects too much that they end up with psychological issues such as hysteria, depression, and alcohol and substance abuse.
Others refer to this as disempowered dark feminine energy. Here are some common expressions of what disempowered dark energy looks like. If you relate to this, maybe it is time to nourish your light feminine energy a little more to get some balance.
Being a drama queen
Being emotional is not a bad thing. After all, your emotions are the source of your feminine power. But untamed emotion is a different thing.
When we say you are a drama queen, it means you are not aware of the emotions you are expressing. You allow your emotions to take over and spin out of control, affecting everyone around you.
A drama queen also uses her being over-emotional to manipulate and control the people around her unconsciously. She knows people would walk in eggshells around her and she uses that to manipulate them to the things that she wants.
A drama queen often expresses herself in tantrums and immature outbursts. If there is an issue or conflict, she often drags it out. And sometimes, she creates conflict out of nowhere.
If you think this is you, you must learn how to process your emotions properly. Learn to calm your mind and control your reaction to everything.
Discrediting the sacredness of the sexual union
Sex is one of the most intimate acts. When two people are bonded in a sexual union, their energy also bonds together.
Unfortunately, sex is a sacred act that is being taken lightly these days. People do not really realize it at the moment but later, they end up feeling drained or bad about it. Just like the way you feel ashamed when you had a one-night stand and you regret it.
But isn’t seduction and being sexual part of the dark feminine energy? Yes, it is. But you still have to respect yourself enough to not just do it to anyone. Your body is valuable and it should not be accessed by just anybody.
Faking an orgasm
Do you find yourself faking an orgasm at times just to please your partner? This is a sign of disempowering dark feminine energy.
Women should experience pleasure during sexual intimacy. After all, sex involves two people. Faking an orgasm means you are using your body to satisfy others. It means that sex is just a duty to your partner and not an experience that must be shared.
The female body is designed for pleasure. There are so many sensual points that give pleasure. Women are practically built to enjoy a sexual union more than men do. But today, it is the other way around. You should be able to take control and start enjoying yourself more in the bedroom.
Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs)
What does it mean to have feminine energy?
Sacred feminine energy is all about knowing who you are, knowing what you want, having the confidence to express yourself, and seeing that your needs are met. It is a primal life force that is all about finding what you truly love and enjoy and manifesting yourself to reach your full potential.
What is the difference between dark feminine energy and dark masculine energy?
Dark feminine energy is free-flowing and not limited by rules and restrictions. It is an energy that is not conscious or affected by social norms. Dark masculine energy is the total opposite. It is predictable and rigid. It embraces order and logic.
Is it a bad thing to lean into my dark feminine energy?
Just because you are accessing your dark energy does not mean you are turning into a bad person. As mentioned earlier, our dark side is needed for balance in order for us to access our true feminine nature. You can’t be a good girl all the time – this allows you to be abused.
Accessing your dark feminine side means that you are no longer limited by the rules of society and that you are not living your life to please other people. To use your dark energy is to liberate yourself and start putting yourself first.
Can I use dark feminine energy to attract a man?
Many women find dark energy helpful when it comes to dating. As mentioned earlier, being seductive is one of the shadow traits of a woman. Aside from that, your dark energy makes you more confident in who you are. At the end of the day, it is the level of confidence that you have that makes a lasting impression.
Generally, most men feel threatened by an empowered woman. If not, they feel inadequate next to a dark goddess who knows what she wants and how to get it.
But take this as a good opportunity to weed out your choices in the dating area. After all you need someone who accepts your true personality, someone who will not stunt your growth, and someone who is willing to let you pursue the things that will make you happy and fulfilled.
Whether you choose to embrace or ignore your shadow side, you will eventually have to face your dark divine feminine energy at some point. To be your best self, you must live a balanced life and in order to that, you must acknowledge your shadow self.
When you access dark feminine energy, you hone the ability to let go and accept everything that you have repressed. This will restore harmony to your inner and outer reality. As mentioned earlier, accessing your dark divine feminine energy will destroy all the things that no longer serve you.
Most women who have tried to channel their dark side have gained a lot of benefits. They have noted an improvement in their lives because their personalities have improved as well. It is just one good thing leading to another good thing. And you can have that too!
Your feminine power is a huge part of your life and it can create a huge improvement once you access it. The dark divine feminine energy is something that you should not be afraid of. Exploring this aspect of your energy can bring more balance into your life and transform you into the strong, confident woman that you were meant to be.
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