What are the best 9 texts to get him chasing you?
There are a lot of ways to attract someone and sending the right text messages is just one of the most subtle yet fun ways to do so. Texting is also very low-maintenance – it does not eat up much of your time and you do not feel pressured about the way you respond because you have time to think things over.
But sending the right text messages or sending the right amount of flirty texts to a guy you are interested in is not always easy.
Sometimes a text can be too straightforward that you get to come off as being too aggressive. Sometimes a text can be too plain or too low-key that it comes off as seeing the guy as nothing more than just a friend.
You have to know the difference between friendly and flirty texts. And you need to find a message that lets him know you are into him without giving away that you have too much interest in him. It is a delicate balance – especially if the two of you are still getting to know each other.
You need to find the right words to trigger his curiosity enough to make him want to respond to your text. Put in an element of mystery around you but do not be too vague that he might think he does not understand you.
You like this guy and you have each other’s number. But he does not seem to make any move and you badly want some progress in your relationship with him.
Or maybe, you have gone through two to three dates already but he has not made any desire to be exclusively dating.
It looks like you could use these 9 texts to get him chasing you.
Don’t know where to start? Don’t you worry – we got you! Here, we will give you 9 texts to get him chasing you. Not only that but we will also give you some tips on how to get the ball rolling after he responds.
Nine flirty text messages that will make him chase you
Flirty text messages can get him chasing you or if you go a little too strong, can scare them off. If you have trouble finding the right balance, here are the 9 texts to get him chasing you. These magic texts will surely get a guy thinking and will elicit a response from him.
“I’m at a lecture/business meeting/work conference but I’m bored out of my mind. Maybe you should come to save me ;p”
If you have not made plans to meet up and go on a date yet, you can send him this text. You do not really have to be in the middle of something but if you are going to lie about it, at least make sure that you do not get caught.
Expressing your boredom and a desire to be rescued from it is a signal that you are looking for a “hero.” The fact that you turned to him could trigger an ego boost. It also lets men live out a hero fantasy where they gets to rescue a damsel in distress.
And in case the message pushes through as just a harmless complaint, adding that winky emoji could give them a hint that you are actually flirting. If he is interested at all, this would prompt him to ask you out or make plans to see you and save the day.
“I’m just trying to figure out my weekend plans”
If you have not gone on a date yet, this is the text to send when he texts you “what’s up?” or “how are you doing?” This is a great text message that will allow him to ask you out.
It’s a message that says you may be available but also have some options to keep you busy. If he is attracted to you, he would jump on the opportunity to make plans with you.
Remember, some men are interested but do not know how to initiate a date. Sending this message to him will look like a sign or a go signal for him. Plus this message will give him the chance to take the lead and take you out.
“Guess what I dreamed about last night? ;)”
This is a text message that you can send when you already met up, done the first date, and are fishing for a second date.
This message will definitely make him interested. After all, the dream has to be something about him since you are telling him about it – it would just be plain weird if it was not related to him in any way. And that winky emoji could imply it was a naughty dream.
If he replies – and we know he will – you can follow up by telling him that you had a vivid dream about him. Nothing more, nothing less. This response will make his imagination run wild trying to think about what kind of dream he had.
By this point, he will definitely press on for more details. This time, pause and take some time before you reply. Leave him hanging for a while to let his imagination go into overdrive.
Then, reply with a casual “I’m sorry for the late reply, I had to take a phone call. My friend had to cancel our plans tonight.”
There is a huge chance that he would take the chance to meet up with you after you indicate you are free that night and want to hear about this dream from you in person.
“Is it wrong/bad/naughty to…?”
You can use keywords to imply that you are misbehaving. This can turn up the heat from his side knowing that you are doing something risky for his benefit.
It could be something as straightforward as “I saw your new profile picture. Is it wrong that I want to stare at it all day?” This gives him the message that you like the way he looks and that you are showing an interest.
Sometimes, it does not even have to be questioned. The point is to get the keywords “wrong”, “bad”, or “naughty” in the mix. You could send him something like “I feel naughty texting you at work like this.”
Save yourselves from the usual boring questions and just go straight to intriguing texts. Sending these texts can make them view you as a confident woman and that can be something that he would find irresistible.
“I have a surprise for you”
Even men love surprises. And if they would receive a text like this, they would feel curious, excited, and want to get some answers. Of course, the only option they have to do is reply back if they want to know what the surprise is.
Men are wired to get the answers they need as soon as possible. So, even if they are busy, the fact that they know there is a surprise waiting makes that surprise take up residency on his mind. He will definitely get back to you within the day.
Just make sure that you do have a surprise for him when you use this tactic. Remember, it does not have to be an expensive or big surprise.
It can be anything from finding his favorite childhood snack, an album of his favorite band, or getting your hands on something he casually mentioned on your date that he has been looking for.
Even the little things count and it shows that you have been listening to every detail he has told you.
“You would love what I’m wearing right now.”
This is best if you have already met up a few times and he has shared his interests with you. Otherwise, it would just be weird to release this when you are still fishing for a first date.
Men are very visual creatures. A text like this would instantly make him imagine you. He will most likely respond and ask you about your outfit. He might even request that you send a picture.
If you do decide to send a picture, make sure to be a tease. For example, do not send him a full body pic. Be a tease about it. Send something that would leave room for his imagination.
For example, send him a pic of your legs that shows a bit of your dress and your heels. If he likes what he’s seeing, he will definitely want to see more.
You can also choose to be a little more mysterious by telling him that he’ll have to wait until he sees you in person. That’s a subtle hint and invitation to meet up later. Of course, this tactic will work if you are quite sure that there is an interest on his part.
It’s a message that can be flirty or innocent – but one thing is sure – it is a message that he’ll love and won’t be able to resist.
“You won’t believe what I did today and it’s all your fault.”
Now, this is a text that will surely start an interesting conversation. It implies that you were being naughty by doing something that you do not usually do and it happens to be all because of him.
No man would ever get to see that message without asking for a follow-up. The thought of you doing something out of character, triggered by him, would definitely make him curious. Plus the message is intriguing enough to leave him hanging and wanting for more.
But keep in mind that if you choose this tactic, you need to do something scary, bold, sexy, or unusual to maintain his interest and keep the conversation going. If he finds out that it was just a small thing, he might lose interest and think of you as an attention seeker and that could turn him off.
“Can I be honest? I don’t know how I feel about you.”
I know this might be a surprise to you since it also implies a negative feeling but most men actually get hooked after they get this text.
If you get this message, you would probably be overthinking and replaying every moment you had together searching for that one thing that you did wrong.
For men, if they get a text like this, they are more likely to feel challenged. And if they are interested in you, it can work wonders. He’ll start to think that he is not doing enough and will make him chase you more.
The best situation to use this text is when you have already been communicating back and forth for weeks and you have gone on a few dates but he has not made any formal move yet.
When he asks you what’s wrong you can tell him that you are starting to really like him but you have a hard time reading if he feels the same way. You can also add that you would just like to put an end to those feelings than getting hurt in the end.
This could either stir up a confession of feelings from him or an explanation of why he is taking things slow.
Take note that this tactic may easily backfire on a man who you already know is shy and insecure. This will probably lower his self-esteem more and ultimately make him stop pursuing you.
“I’d love to do that but I already made plans. Can we do that tomorrow?”
This is a great response for someone who finally asks you on that second date or for the guy who asks you out at the last minute through text.
This message gives him the idea that your world is not revolving around him and that you have a social life without him. It can even make him wonder who is more deserving of your attention that night.
If you are always available every moment he texts you, he will think that he does not need to show any effort because you are already so into him. As a result, he eventually takes you and your time for granted.
A man who thinks he can have you at any time he wants can get his ego bruised when he gets a rejection. Now, this is not what we want.
So, you make him know that you are available the next day. This way, he will feel compelled to make plans with you for the next day if he really cares for your company.
How to respond once he starts texting you
Here are some considerations that you need to keep in mind once he starts replying to the nine texts above. Remember, the nine text messages are just prompts. How you respond to his responses can make or break your bond.
Don’t always be readily available
Even if you have a lot of free time, you should make him feel that you are not always available and that you are not just waiting around for him to text you.
Do not respond the very moment you receive his text. It can make you look desperate or like you have nothing else going on in life – both of which are not attractive traits. Give it a few minutes before you reply and when you do, keep it casual.
The chase will lie in him knowing that you are not always available when he needs you. If he’s interested, you will see that he will try harder to grab your attention.
Do not bombard him with messages
Nobody wants to be smothered. If he gets endless messages from you in a short period, he may feel overwhelmed and most likely annoyed. It could easily be a turn-off. So, if you send him a text and he has not responded yet, wait for his reply before you send another one – no matter how long it is taking for him to respond.
Do not overthink that there was something wrong with your last message. Give it time for him to continue the conversation. The ball is in his court now. The same goes for overly long text messages.
He may be busy with other obligations or he may be testing if he really is interested in you or not. Either way, you must respect his space and time.
If you feel like you are always the one initiating the conversation, then back off for a while. See if anything changes. If he doesn’t initiate a conversation himself, take it as a sign that he is not that interested in you.
Mirror how he texts
Everybody has their own rhythm so it is a good idea to match the way he texts you. You do not have to completely mirror his style but you should be able to observe his texting habits.
For instance, maybe he texts you more at night when he is done with work so make it a habit to be more alert during that time. Maybe he is fond of using emojis, so feel free to sprinkle some emojis in your response.
If his messages come off as bland or like he is not really excited to be communicating with you, lower your energy as well. This may not be the right time to show your eagerness for his attention.
Do not reveal too much
The surefire way to make a man pay attention to you is to reveal less about you. If you come out as a mysterious lady, this will make him curious and want to get to know you more.
For example, if he asks you how’s your day and you respond by telling him everything, there is little left for his imagination or for him to question since you have given him all the information in one blow.
But if you give a vague but intriguing response like “It was a bit stressful but mostly good” then he will end up wondering what stressed you out. If he does not, then he probably does not care that much about you.
But make sure that you do not become too vague every time you respond to him. This could make him feel that he could never get you and may get exhausted trying to read you accurately. Look for a balance that will leave him curious and wanting to ask more questions.
We all have heard the perks about dating a funny guy. But most guys love a girl with humor as well. Guys barely laugh out loud and if you get him laughing all the time with funny texts, believe me – you will be on his mind all the time. It will not take long before he’ll chase you.
But make sure that you will also be flirty funny. You do not want to give out the wrong impression that will make him see you as a funny friend he loves to hang out with. You have to make it clear that you are interested as well.
Send funny texts, ask fun questions, tell funny stories, make him feel like every hour with you is a happy hour. But do not be an all-out clown that he can easily overlook. Get him chasing you by flirting every now and then.
Don’t be afraid to flirt
Gone are the days when girls have to be all prim and proper. It does not hurt to send one or two seductive texts in the mix of the sweet good night texts and cute good morning texts you send him.
A seductive text will always make a guy smile no matter what level of interest he has on you. If he never thought of you that way, a seductive text will definitely get him chasing you. Starting the sexy texts yourself is like giving them a green light to make a bold move.
Before you know it, your boring getting to know you conversations will turn into a sexy texting game that will make the both of you go to bed thinking of each other.
A lot of ladies feel lost when it comes to texting a guy they are attracted to. You are not alone. But just because you are a woman does not mean you have to wait around waiting for him to make a move that may never come.
Sometimes, you have to take the first step subtly – so subtle that it makes him think that he was the one who made the first move. And as you can see, you do not need a dating coach to figure out how to win a guy’s heart.
Now that you know the 9 texts to get him chasing you, there is a great chance that the guy you like will take an interest in you. Chasing test messages like the ones above can encourage a guy to get to know you to a deeper level.
Just remember to enjoy the process, be your authentic self, and don’t rush things. Texting each other during the get-to-know or dating stage is fun! You are a beautiful woman that deserves a good chase and any guy will be lucky to have you!
Do not overthink things and do not give all the information away. Always leave room for questions to keep the conversation going. Make him wonder about you and think about how much fun it would be to be with you and before you know it, he is chasing you.
Looking for inspiration for questions that are bound to keep the conversation flowing? Read this article next: Flirty Questions to Ask A Guy.